Are you feeling that you have reached the point of physical and emotional abuse yet? If not, it still worth to try more ways for improving your relationship if you still want to stay with your marriage.
Based on your several articles, it does not show that your husband has serious problem on Grambling, drug, alcoholism or love affair. He should not be a bad person in nature according to the social behavior standards. Couple won’t have perfect matched personalities. Adaptation and adjustment within couple may be one of the ways to improve. These are mutual activities, need both sides put efforts.
He expresses his love not in a right way, and gives you pressure and difficulty. It is tough for you in daily life. However, the key reason, as you mention in the other article, is lacking of confidence by him because of your outstanding. Why you not use this advantage to solve the problem: show him your passion, love, consideration and loyalty, make him be more confident. Spend more time to communicate each other, make him believe that he is your only one, give him encourage. At the mean time, tell him what you like and what you do not like.
Your several articles posted in this website are the voices of you, the voice from your heart. Find a chance to let him read them, so that he knows your feeling, demand, desire and expectation, and knows your suffering and unhappiness. Meanwhile, you can know his needs and expectation… Men, in general, are getting change when they are getting matured and have more life experience. For same reason, I think your husband will change / control his temper when he understands and realizes the damage from it.
Please be positive always, act and think positively. Spend some time to find any strength of your husband. Do not realize his strength until you loss him. Show your appreciation when your husband does any good things for you. In general, men are easy to satisfy. On birthday, anniversary, Valentine’s Day and father’s day, any surprise activities create by you may be helpful for the relationship, to show your caring, appreciation and recognition.
Please do not always consider yourself as center. You have a nice son. Why not put family as a center? To build a good family is part of the responsibilities of marriage. When people have goal (to build a happy family), they have hope and energy. Also, there will be less and less conflict occurs.
For your personal matter, as a outside person, it’s hard to give comments of yes or no; good or bad, right or wrong. Above is just my opinions.
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